If I Were a Poor Man.... - Parshat Mishpatim

There is a famous saying that a society is judged by how it treats its weakest members. This quote or variations of it have been attributed to Gandhi, Samuel Johnson and even as far back as Aristotle.

We all know of the concept of giving charity. It is a worldwide concept and is practiced in some form by all cultures. Yet the Torah teaches us that it is not only important to give charity, it is also important how we give the charity.

In this week's portion, Parshat Mishpatim, the Torah writes of lending money to the "poor who is with you".1 Rashi, the medieval commentator, in explaining the seemingly superfluous words 'who is with you', quotes the Midrash which exhorts us to be careful how we behave with the poor. The poor is "with you". You may not act with contempt towards him and must even "view yourself as if you were that person!" How would you want the money to reach your hands? With a smile or a frown? Happily or begrudgingly? You may even possibly like to hear some words of encouragement. Try to put yourself in his shoes.

This goes not only for the poor financially. This concept is applicable to all who are weaker - whether financially, physically, spiritually or emotionally. It applies to the society as a whole as well as to the individual. It applies to the one needing medical treatment, a warm meal or just a kind word.

Having empathy for the plight of the needy is a way of showing him that we see him as a part of the people, as being "with you". He feels a part. Treat him sincerely, as you would want to be treated.

Being there for others is part of what we need to do in order to fulfill our own purpose in the world. We are not here for ourselves alone. That would truly be an empty existence.2 So how we relate to those in need is an integral part of the helping process - "view yourself as if you were that person!" After all, the roles may someday be reversed. How would you wish to receive that package of aid?

A person approached the Beis Halevi, a great 19th century sage, and asked him if he could use milk instead of wine for kiddush at the holiday meal. The rabbi answered by happily giving him not only wine but also food for the festive meal. When his family asked about his decision he replied that if the man was asking about drinking milk instead of wine for the meal, he obviously had none of the other necessities for the festive meal either. This is a true example of how to read between the lines and treat the poor.

After all, he too is "with you".

 Notes

  1. Shemot 22:24
  2. This is a theme oft-repeated in the works of Viktor Frankl, author of Man's Search for Meaning.

 

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