Do you ever notice that family conflict appears to errupt more over the holidays than at any other time of the year? Sure one does tend to see their family members more during holidays than at any other time, but why does conflict emerge so often just then?

For many individuals when any mention of a religious holiday is made, they feel like cringing because associated feelings that emerge include those of stress and anxiety. In a family's attempt to create a beautiful atmosphere for the holidays, often times the organisers get caught up in planning to perfection. This often comes at the expense of other things, like enjoying the process, or the people around them.

Another reason that family feuds tend to emerge more around the holidays is because family gatherings evoke recollections from the past. In other words, old sibling rivalries that haven't been quashed, or when wounds from the past emerge tension and friction fill the air. A slight comment gone askew can cause skin to crawl or tensions to flare.

The best way to continue to gather together for family holidays without the tension is to communicate your needs and desires for the ideal holiday weeks and months before the gathering. Create strong boundaries for yourself by telling family members that certain topics are "no go zones" over the holidays. If your family members cross the lines you create, then it is up to you to remind them that they are out of line, firmly and without anger.

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