Many people complain that they find their dates boring. "He/She has nothing interesting to share with me…He/she has no hobbies or interests…He/She talks about their parents and siblings all the time." My question is," What are we really waiting for? What gives any of us the big feeling of wow?"

We live in a time, where it takes a lot more for us to feel the wow sensation, because we have seen/done it all. Waiting for the "wow factor" to happen for us on a date, is a bit like waiting for Godot… it isn't really going to come, unless we do something to make it come.

This my sound trite, but what if we all started to consider how we can be responsible for the wow factor on the date. What if we made it our job to create some sort of wow effect? What would we do? What could we say? How could we look?

How does placing the "Wow" onus on ourselves change things around? Do we now see how hard it is to create this effect? Can we actually be creating more excitement in the person we are with because now they too feel the wow?

Let's all try an experiment, for the next date we go on, let us choose one thing to make the person we are with feel "wow," and see how that changes the date…Keep me posted, will yah!!!

Micki Lavin-Pell- is a Marriage and Family Therapist, and Dating Coach. Micki currently works in private practice seeing couples and individuals who are struggling either with their marriage or getting married. She has been a Marriage and Family therapist for nearly 10 years. She applies her knowledge and experience with relationship skills to helping those who have not yet found their life partner to unearth what is blocking them from getting married. She also created a Dating Workshop along side Linda Bezaleli, (Life Coach) entitled "Dating with a Difference."