Often when couples come for counselling, they feel desperate about their situation, so much so that they fear that their relationship is beyond repair. What unfortunately brings couples to therapy is the threat from one of the pair that if they don't come to therapy with the intention of doing something differently, then the relationship is OVER.

This threat can often be read as a plea for help, rather than a threat. What the person threatening to leave the relationship really means is," I feel that I have been putting a lot of work into this relationship, and I don't see that you have been putting in as much as I have."

Everyone has a role to play in their couple relationship. All relationships struggle to find the right balance at different times. When one person ends up doing the bulk of the emotional work, this can leave them to feel as though they are carrying a heavy load.

In order for a healthy relationship to flourish, the couple need to talk through the boundaries of the relationship, and who does what, when. While talking through all of the details of a relationship may sound a little unromantic, when put into practice the couple can then begin to feel more positively about one another. Once the positive feelings begin to flow couples then begin to feel more affectionate towards one another, and the romance then has the opportunity to flourish.

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