Many of my clients have shared with me how difficult it is to feel excited when they meet a potential new partner. So many of us long for that loving feeling, yet really struggle to encounter it, at least initially. A large part of the reason for this is that the human race is  working harder than ever. It is rather ironic how the more we rely upon technology, which is intended to make our lives easier and more convenient the less time and space we actually have for leisure, fun and of course love.  Work overload can be a real feeling killer. Many have shared with me that they cling to work to feel a greater sense of meaning and purpose in their lives as their love lives haven'€™t yet panned out the way that they would like. It is as though so many are fearful of feeling the pain of loneliness that they would rather fill the space with the pain of hard work. While it makes a lot of sense that busying ourselves so that we don't have to deal with our loneliness in theory sounds like a good idea, it is merely a quick fix solution, that doesn'€™t have a good long term outcome. The more we busy ourselves to dull our feelings of loneliness the more we are keeping ourselves from truly allowing love in. Conversely, the more we embrace our feelings of loneliness, the more we create the potential for love, because we become more aware of our need for it. Additionally, the more we are in touch with what we don't want in our lives, the better able we will be to identify, attract and create space for love.