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Parenting With Rabbi Ackerman
Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
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When a parent tells me that she is overwhelmed, I usually say "That sounds very difficult. What do you do when you're overwhelmed?"
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Transformational
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
June 16th, 2019
I recently received a phone call from a friend.  She began by saying “this is a nachas call.” Since all of my children and grandchildren live in New York and my friend lives in Israel I was puzzled.  How could she be calling me with a nachas call when she hasn’t seen any of my family in over a year? She proceeded to explain the nachas.  It was about me and my book. My friend said she had given a copy of my book to …
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NOT Al Pi Darcho
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
June 16th, 2019
Most parents are very careful when choosing a cheder, Yeshiva, Bais Yaakov, or Bais HaMedrash for their each of their children, al pi darcho.  They want to see and experience the saviva, the atmosphere created in the classroom, the nature and personality of the Rebbe or Morah, and the overall hashkafa of the school.  Ideally, they observe the instructor in action, how he or she presents material and their demeanor towards their students …
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How Did Kaayin Know?
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
September 13th, 2018
It was only the second generation of mankind, and already murder was introduced into the world.  In the aftermath of a stunning act of fratricide, Kaayin is condemned to wander the earth in isolation (Na v’Nad: Na to wander and Nad to be isolated, shunned. See Rav Hirsch on Braishis 4:12).  But the Torah is terse in its description of the aftermath, and questions arise. Kaayin responds by saying “great is my sin to bear.&rdq …
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Analyze Whom?
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
April 16th, 2018
Kids are not the ones who necessarily need to sit down with a therapist.  When parents gain the tools to manage stress and their own emotions in a healthy way, they’re better prepared to be there for their children.  Kids react to their environment.  When the adults are able to put children’s needs before their own, that’s when we see children behaving differently. They feel nurtured. (Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD. Cited …
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When Nakama Isn’t Revenge
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
March 11th, 2018
What is the point of punishment?  What is it supposed to accomplish?  We’ll look at types of punishment used by parents with children, but first let’s look at punishment as it relates to criminals. The four most common theories of punishment of criminals are: retribution, deterrence, rehabilitation, and incapacitation.  (The Oxford Handbook of Criminal Law, Edited by Markus D. Dubber and Tatjana Hörnle, Part III, S …
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A Hidden Source
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
February 26th, 2018
We assume that there is a mitzvah to raise children to become bnei and bnos Torah, a mitzvah of chinuch habanim.  Is there such a mitzvah, and if so, what is the source for it? It appears from the Rambam in Sefer haMitzvos that the Torah only requires us to teach Torah to our students.  The Rambam points out that the Sifri on the term “v’shinantum l’vanecha”  (Devorim 6:5) says this refers to students.  …
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School Rules
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
January 29th, 2018
Who rules your child?  Who decides what she is going to do and what she is not going to do? Do you as parents make these determinations?  Does her school make these decisions for her? Does it depend on her age?  Do you think you choose for her until she begins school and then school makes the choices for her?  And when she becomes a little older, her peers make the choices? None of the above.  No matter how old she is.&nb …
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Disappointment
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
January 21st, 2018
You have no reason to be disappointed. I hope you have never said that to your child. Even if you explained it. No one gets everything they want. You have plenty of other things. Things don’t always turn out the way we want them to. In the greater scheme of things, this isn’t a big deal. Any one of these statements may be true.  That doesn’t mean your child has no reason to be disappointed. Disappointment is an emotion, an …
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The Name is Bond, Parental Bond
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
December 14th, 2016
How do you build a relationship as husband and wife?  You start by forming the habits of a good relationship.  You make time, every day, to listen to each others’ experiences, opinions, and reactions, focusing primarily on the positive. This process begins the morning after the chasunah.  You share your memories and impressions from the simcha, e.g. your nieces are so adorable, it was so wonderful that your Alter Zaidy was ab …
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The Starting Point
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
September 26th, 2016
There are so many things you want your child to learn.  So many possible places to begin to help him grow.  There are numerous skills, ideas, ideals, and virtues you want to teach him.  Where do you start? Here’s a suggestion from Gems From The Nesivos Sholom on Pirkei Avos (page 369): “In a fairly well-known dissertation, Rav Chaim Vital (Shaarei Kedusha 1:2) makes the following observation.  The importance of mid …
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