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Parenting With Rabbi Ackerman
Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
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When a parent tells me that she is overwhelmed, I usually say "That sounds very difficult. What do you do when you're overwhelmed?"
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Grandparents and The Value of Vertical Integration
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
January 23rd, 2021
There are two occasions in the Torah in which a grandparent addresses a grandchild, both times with everlasting impact. Noach informs his grandson Canaan that he and his progeny will serve the descendants of his uncles Shem and Yafes. Yaakov Aveinu gives a bracha to his grandsons Ephraim and Menashe that becomes the legacy of their descendants. What impact do grandparents have on grandchildren today? According to a group of eight year olds who we …
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Uncooperative Children
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
January 14th, 2021
I am apprehensive about writing this article, addressing this topic.  My apprehension is based on the following sources. Avtalyon omeir: Chachamim, hizoharu b’divreichem, shemo tochuvu chovas galus, v’siglu limkom mayim harayim, v’yishtu hatalmidim haba'im achareichem v’yamusu, v’nimtza Sheim Shomayim mischaleil. Avtalyon would say: Chachamim, be careful with your words; lest you be guilty of exile, to a place o …
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Figurative Wine
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
January 11th, 2021
Zeh to-aim l’fi maasav vzeh to-aim l’fi maasav. Both eat from one bowl, but this one tastes according to his experiences and that one tastes according to his experiences.  (Avos d’Rabi Nasan, 37:9) You and your child share an external experience.  Did you just have the same experience internally?  Often, you did not. Sensory experience can be shared.  It comes from your environment and is received by your fiv …
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Teaching Middos
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
December 31st, 2020
Middos tovos are a prerequisite for Torah. One must first improve his middos and then the Torah can dwell upon him... One cannot learn Torah first and then acquire good middos because this is impossible. (Rabeinu Yonah on Avos 3:17)   Yes, Rabbi Ackerman, I understand that.  You have mentioned that the best way to teach children is by example.  The problem is that my children are not with me all day to see how I conduct myself in v …
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Tell Me Something Good
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
December 31st, 2020
S'iz nisht keyn chidush vas ihr geyt nisht hecher. Veyl s'iz nisht chashuv ba eykh keyn uvda. It's no surprise that you haven't grown.  Your accomplishments haven't been acknowledged.  (Birchas Asher, Stolin, as explained to me by a Stoliner Rav) Children thrive on success.  It is the responsibility of parents and educators to look for and point out those successes.  Without that acknowledgement, children do not grow. Mom: I r …
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Done with Kaf Zchus
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
December 21st, 2020
HaGaon Rabeinu Aharon Yehuda Leib Shteinman ZTZ”L was learning this gemara: Amar Rav Yehuda bar Sheila, amar Rabi Asi, amar Rabi Yochanan: There are six things a person enjoys the fruits of in this world, and the principal remains for him in Olam Haba. They are: hospitality toward guests; visiting the sick; concentrating during prayer; arriving in shul early; one who raises his sons to study Torah; and one who judges another favorably, l&rs …
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The Minister of Loneliness
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
December 13th, 2020
Vaiyomer Hashem Elokim, lo tov heyos ha'adom levado. And Hashem Elokim said, It is not good for man to be alone.  (Braishis 2:18)   Oh chavrusa oh masusa.  Either a friend or death (Taanis 23a), because it is not good for man to be alone.  (Nachalas Avos on Avos 1:6)   How not good is it?  According to an article in Perspectives on Psychological Science, very not good. Loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking …
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Polishing Golems
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
November 29th, 2020
Shiva d’vorim b’golem v’shiva b’chocham. chocham eino m’dabeir bifnei mi she-hu godol mi-menu b’chochmoh 1uv’minyon, v'eino nichnos l’soch divrei chaveiro, v’eino nivhol l’hoshiv, sho'eil k'inyon u’meishiv k’halacha, v'omeir al rishon rishon v'al acharon acharon, v'al mah sh’lo shoma, omeir lo shomati, u’modeh al ha'emes. V’chilufeihen b’golem. Seven t …
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Beat the Clock
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
November 22nd, 2020
B’tzedek tishpot amisecho, judge others with tzedek. (Vayikra 19:15)  How do you judge someone with tzedek? Rabbeinu Yonah explains this as follows: Behold, when you hear someone who says a certain thing or performs a particular action wherein you can judge his words or actions in either a negative or positive manner, if the one who has performed this act is known to be a yirei Elokim, a righteous person, then you are obligated to judg …
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The Power of Remorse
Author: Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman, LMHC
November 15th, 2020
Sorrow and remorse are two different things. Sorrow is me feeling bad that you’re unhappy with me. Remorse is me feeling bad that I hurt you. When my feeling is sorrow, my intention and my behavior are to alleviate my discomfort. When my feeling is remorse, my intention and my behavior are to alleviate your discomfort. Even though he gives him, he is not forgiven until he requests [forgiveness] from him, as the pasuk says, “Now return …
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