Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My son is a great boy, kind, sincere, and easygoing. He recently got engaged, and baruch Hashem the kallah seems like an excellent girl. One thing I’ve noticed over the years is that he can be a little absent-minded. He forgets small things sometimes. But now that he’s engaged, I’ve seen a few moments where he forgot to follow up on something he told his kallah, or didn’t realize how somethin …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My wife and I have been married five years, baruch Hashem, and we have two wonderful children. When we got engaged, her plan was to become a social worker, and she was also doing some photography on the side. That played a big part in how I understood her goals. Soon after the chasuna, she stopped college, and within a year she stopped photography too. She’s been working a part-time remote job since then, but now she&rs …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My wife has close friends, and she isn’t shy. But I notice that she avoids big events. Simchos, Shabbos meals with new people, even shul. She will come up with an excuse not to go. She doesn’t say it’s anxiety, just that it’s “too much,” or that she’s not in the mood. She always has been like this to a degree, but it is getting worse recently. Is it possible to be a sociable person bu …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’ve been feeling really off physically for a long time, beyond regular tired. My whole body hurts some days, or just feels heavy, like I’m walking through water. I’ve seen doctors, done blood work, they always say nothing’s wrong or just say “maybe it's stress.” This isn’t just stress. I crash after normal things like taking the kids to the park or making Shabbos and it’s not normal …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: Thank you for your informative and insightful column. I am reaching out for guidance regarding my 15-year-old daughter, who has been experiencing motor tics for several years. The tics have followed a fluctuating course, typically appearing for a period of time and then resolving for several months. There have been intervals of up to six months without any symptoms, followed by sudden recurrences, often in connection with identifi …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I am 54 years old, the owner of a successful business, and I give a nightly shiur. I grew up in a difficult home and developed OCD and anxiety before my bar mitzvah. In those days, there was no treatment for this. I married a wonderful girl, but our marriage was greatly impacted by my emotional problems. At my wife's insistence I made my rounds to many therapists, but my symptoms never went away. I finally …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’m someone who likes to talk things through when something’s bothering me—it helps me process and feel closer. But my husband just goes quiet, moves on quickly, or just says “it’s fine.” He’s not cold or mean, he just doesn’t really do the whole talking-about-feelings thing. I’m trying not to push, but I also sometimes feel alone and that things are unresolved. Is this a norma …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’m writing about my 6-year-old son, who started his second year of school. He’s usually a happy, easygoing kid, and last year went well overall. But since school started, he’s been refusing to go in the mornings and sharing strange fears—like the bus getting lost, getting in trouble, or even the police showing up. When he gets anxious, he becomes really upset and hard to calm down. He also seems to misinte …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’ve been feeling something lately that I’m not even sure how to put into words. I have a sibling who I’m close with, and I do care about them a lot. But when I hear about all the good things going on in their life — whether it's their job, their social life, or how smoothly everything seems to go, I sometimes walk away from our conversations feeling frustrated or not good enough. I don’t want to feel …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I got married recently, baruch Hashem, and overall things are good. My wife and I get along well, I’m happy to be building a life with her, and I’m grateful for what I have. But at the same time, I’ve been feeling stuck lately. Before marriage, I felt like I was really growing—in learning, in personal development, in self-awareness. I had space to think, dream, and work on myself. Particularly, wh …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I am a girl that has been teaching for a few years now. Before I go into the classroom, I often feel symptoms of anxiety. It usually starts before I even leave for work and continues until I’m actually in the classroom. Once I’m there, the anxiety lessens, but it doesn’t go away completely. Now that it’s summer break, I’m barely feeling any anxiety at all. But when I think about going back to work, I …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 26th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My son is in his early teens and has been struggling emotionally for a while now. We’re considering therapy to help with his anxiety and frustration, but there’s an added complication—he also has a language delay and has trouble expressing himself clearly, especially when it comes to his emotions. He’s intelligent and very sensitive, but when something’s bothering him, he often can’t find the wo …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’ve always felt more myself around my friends than with family. With friends, I feel understood and comfortable. With family, it’s more tense—I feel judged or like I have to be careful. Recently, I chose to go to a close friend’s simcha instead of a family event, and my family was really upset. They said I was choosing friends over family, and maybe I was. But the truth is, I often feel more emotionally co …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’ve always been the type to think a lot—about people, situations, conversations, and about “life” in general. Sometimes I pick up on things others don’t, and I think that’s a strength. But it also makes me anxious and depressed. I also tend to be a little cynical. I replay things in my head, overanalyze, and sometimes get sad and discouraged when I look at what is going on around me.   Som …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: As the parent of a smart, kind, and good-hearted son who is about to enter shidduchim, I’ve started to feel concerned about something I’ve noticed for a while. When he’s under stress or feeling anxious, especially when things are emotionally charged—he either stutters a lot or has a hard time communicating clearly. He often shuts down, and it takes time and effort to coax out what’s really going on. I …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: We recently had our first baby, and while baruch Hashem everything went smoothly, it’s definitely been an adjustment. Right now, we’re staying at my parents’ house for a little extra support, which has helped a lot. Lately, my husband mentioned that he’s thinking about sleeping at our apartment some nights so he can get better rest. He says it would help him function better during the day and be more presen …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My son is in 11th grade, and he’s always been a picky eater—but it hasn’t improved with age. He does eat regularly and while he is skinny is basically a normal weight, so it’s not about body image or restricting food. But his diet is extremely limited: a few specific foods, no variety, and no interest in trying anything new. It makes supper, and Shabbos meals hard. He won’t eat at other people’s …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

July 29th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I was supposed to go to Eretz Yisroel this summer—something I earned as a reward and that I have been looking forward to for a long time. But with the current situation, the trip was cancelled, and even though I completely understand why, I’m  having a very hard time dealing with it. I feel disappointed, frustrated, and even a little embarrassed, like I was all ready for something that just got taken away. It isn& …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: Our son had a rough few years—emotionally, socially, and in his yiddishkeit. Over the past 2 years in yeshiva in Eretz Yisroel there was a real turnaround. He connected with his rebbeim, grew in his learning, and seemed more stable and happier overall. We were so grateful to see him in a better place. He came home for Pesach and has been back since, and little by little, we’re seeing some of the old patterns …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: Lately I’ve been noticing how much pressure I put on myself to do things right. Even small things, like cooking for Shabbos or writing a thank-you note, start to feel stressful—like there’s one correct way to do it, and if I don’t get it perfect, it reflects badly on me. I end up procrastinating or overthinking things that really shouldn’t be so complicated. People probably see me as respons …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: Thank you for your thoughtful and insightful column. I’m curious about how to understand the difference between a close, meaningful friendship and one that may be overly dependent or emotionally intense. In close relationships, it’s natural to want to spend time together and share thoughts and experiences—but is there a point where that closeness becomes unhealthy? What are some signs that an attachment to a frie …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: What is your opinion on taking medication for anxiety? I’ve tried quite a few therapists over the years, but it didn’t really help. Recently, my mother brought up the idea of taking medication, but I feel weird about it. I’ve been going to therapy privately, and I’m pretty sure other people my age do too. But taking pills feels like a different level—like something more serious. What’s your take …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: B”H Hashem has blessed us with many wonderful grandchildren. The other blessing is that they enjoy spending time with us.
My husband is a caring, generous, loving, and devoted grandfather.
He often criticizes the teenage boys. Although they take it in good stride it bothers me very much. I feel he should be complimenting them much more. Every teenage boy needs chizuk and that should be our main goal. My …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: My husband recently started going to therapy, and I can see that it’s been good for him. He seems calmer and more focused, and I know he’s working on himself. I really do want to be supportive and I’m glad it’s helping him—but at the same time, it leaves me a bit lost. He’s thinking differently, approaching things in new ways, and meanwhile I feel like I’m still in the same place. It&rsquo …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: Being in seminary this year has made me realize how hard it is for me to really trust people. Even when someone hasn’t done anything wrong, I find myself holding back or expecting to get hurt. It’s like I’m always bracing for something to go wrong. I know that not everyone is out to hurt me and I honestly want to feel close to people. It’s just really hard for me to let my guard down. Keeping a bi …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

June 23rd, 2025

Dear Therapist: Over Yom Tov, I was by a few different families, and I found myself constantly comparing myself to them.  One family had such a calm atmosphere, another had a beautiful home, and everyone just seemed so confident, happy, and “put together.” I couldn’t help but compare it to my own life—and walk away feeling like I’m behind, or like I’m not enough. I am not sure if it's just me but I definit …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

April 4th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I’ve always struggled with my temper. Lately I’ve been realizing that it’s not always about how bad a situation is, but more about things not going the way I expected or planned. I’m starting to wonder if my anger has more to do with being rigid—like I just have a really hard time when things don’t go the way I think they should. Is that a common root of anger issues? Is that what I should …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

April 4th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I recently started therapy, and I can honestly say it’s been something I really need—it’s helping. But even though people say the stigma around therapy is fading, I still feel like many of my friends don’t really understand it. I could never imagine telling them I’m in therapy. Not long ago, one of my friends made a joke about people who go to therapy, and it really stung. I didn’t feel like I c …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

March 20th, 2025

Dear Therapist: Is feeling that I don't have anything to say in social situations social anxiety? Even in situations where I don't feel anxious, I have a hard time making conversation. Even when I am with people that I feel comfortable with. Am I just missing some sort of social skill or is this part of social anxiety? Or maybe this is just who I am and I should accept it. I would appreciate your advice. Thank you.    Response: At first …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

March 20th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I am writing regarding my 19-year-old daughter. She is doing well baruch Hashem but has always been a different personality than the rest of our family. She has also landed on a derech in life that, while she is living as a frum yid, is different than the way she was brought up. Our relationship has had its up and downs over the years but now I would say it is kind of neutral. Although we are accepting of her, …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

March 7th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I enjoy your column every week. I appreciate how each of you have your own style and way of seeing things. I was wondering if you could each share your opinion on what you think is most misunderstood about therapy. How would you clarify and reframe it for those who may be considering therapy?    Response: Of course, as you said, all therapists have different styles and perspectives. (Thus, our responses to this question …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

March 7th, 2025

I find that I get very down and depressed after yomim tovim. Not just Purim but really every Yom Tov, and truthfully after every exciting time of year. I am sure most people have some sort of let down but with me it is really painful. As a matter of fact, when something enjoyable starts, I am already starting to think about how soon it will be over. I guess I just have a rough time with "regular life." How can I get better at handling this? …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

March 7th, 2025

I wonder if you have any suggestions for pulling out of what feels like a tailspin these last few weeks. I had been doing really well at work, at home, and in my learning and davening and suddenly I feel like I just lost all interest. It’s hard for me to get out of bed in the morning, I push off my chavrusah, and I am not paying attention at home or work. It seems to have come from nowhere. I know it will pass and I will get it together but …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 18th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I really was not doing well during my mesivta years. I got into a lot of trouble and was a bit out of control. Baruch Hashem, I found myself the right yeshiva and I am really doing good now. I have cleaned up a lot of the issues that I was having trouble with in the past. Over the years people had pushed me to go to therapy but I was never really interested. Now, my parents are bringing it up again and I am more open to …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I recently began dating and was surprised that I was extremely nervous during the time I was dating that boy. This is a new experience for me, I am generally laid back and I have never been the anxious type. What bothered me the most was that during the 2 weeks I was dating I had no appetite and could barely eat anything.  When that match didn’t work out, I was back to myself, but then when I said yes to …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: Is there a way to get my teenagers to be more organized and on top of things or is this just the way that they are and I should learn to live with it?  The constant forgetting and/or neglecting of responsibilities and the things they were asked to do, the oversleeping, and the mess in their rooms. These are great kids who are doing well in school and yeshiva so I don't want to complain, but as a mother it is really hard on me …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I was wondering what ideas you would suggest for enhancing communication in a marriage. This is for a couple that has good shalom bayis and is looking to work on it. Somehow although things are going well, when disagreements happen it is the same thing over and over. So, it seems that although there is a discussion, these issues are not resolved.  I don't think in this case therapy is really on the table but perhaps …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My son has a tendency to jump around yeshivos. He is in second year and now is talking about switching to another yeshiva which would be his fourth in 6 years. He always has a strong reason behind it, he wants a certain shiur, a better oylam, or just thinks it would be good to have a "fresh start." I would say he is about average in most of the places he has been and they have been happy with him, he seems to keep thinki …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I am almost always tired. I get a decent night's sleep, around 7 hours, which is certainly more than most people I know. Still, I have these constant feelings of fatigue throughout the day. I go to the doctor regularly so it isn't like I have some health issue that is causing it. Can this be mental health related? I think I am doing ok and I certainly don't suffer from any serious mental health issues. I guess I am not the happies …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 10th, 2025

Dear Therapist:  I have a question I would like to hear your opinion on. I am an American bachur learning in Eretz Yisroel and I share a dirah with 5 other bachurim. In general, we try to keep the dirah clean, including a thorough cleaning once a week. About half a year ago we took in a bachur that apparently has major OCD. Every night after everyone else goes to sleep he gets to work sp …
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