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Shira Frank on Parenting and Marriage
Shira Frank, LCSW
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Consenting to Compromise
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
November 24th, 2019
Q: I have been married close to 13 years and since the beginning it has been a turbulent marriage. Our marital issues have recently intensified, as my husband’s erratic behavior became too much for me to live with. We have one child together. It’s gotten to the point that the police were actually involved, and my 12-year-old son had to witness part of this, which was clearly traumatic for him. It is clear that the marriage is on its w …
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The Challenge of Dealing With a Difficult Mother-in-Law
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
November 24th, 2019
Q: I’ve had difficulty dealing with my mother-in-law since I first got married nearly 15 years ago. She is a Holocaust survivor who is still embittered and wants all her married children to cater to her. She can come over to our house and criticize the children, then question us if we don’t discipline them in the way that she thinks is correct. My husband doesn’t respond to her directly when she behaves this way, but my children …
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Starting the New Year Afresh
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
November 24th, 2019
Q: As the new year gets underway, I find myself looking back at past years and thinking about how I’ve been as a mother. I think my patience has improved somewhat, but when I look at my husband, I just see ways in which his general attitude has become more negative. I’m sure a main cause is that he’s been under a lot of stress due to his work (he’s self-employed), and has suffered a lot of financial setbacks. He snaps at o …
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Calming the Combat Zone
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
November 24th, 2019
Q: As I look back upon Yom Tov, I feel like I spent far too much time refereeing fights among my children. This began before Yom Tov, when it came to assigning jobs. My 14-year-old son complained that he always gets the same job that he hates and that his brother never completes the job that is given to him. The younger son defended himself, and they soon got into a screaming match. My husband and I spend too much time mediating arguments. More i …
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Realistic Expectations in Marriage
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
February 22nd, 2017
Realistic Expectations of Marriage: An Overview 10 Years later By: Shira Frank, LCSW               In general, one's level of satisfaction in one’s marriage is dependent on one’s initial expectations. Either the reality of one's marriage is very close, is very far or has surpassed one's initial expectations. Sometimes after 10 years of marriage, a spouse feels resentment towa …
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Rekindling Sparks in Marriage
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
February 4th, 2017
Rekindling Sparks In Marriage Shira Frank, LCSW   Q: I have been married for eleven years, and have four children , B'li ayin hora. My husband works late hours to help pay for our children's tuition, and I barley have time to speak to him during the week. (He sleeps through much of Shabbos.) His personality has become quite irritating to me – he just seems to  talk about his work, and doesn't seem to care to be part of my life. I …
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Marital Conflict
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
January 17th, 2017
Marital  Conflict By: Shira Frank Dear Shira              I have recently begun to lose patience with my husband, who I have been married to for eleven years. If I tell him something that he doesn’t want to hear, he just ignores me. I have come to constantly screaming to express myself to him, but that doesn’t seem to help. He mentioned that he would like to improve thi …
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Emotional Bankruptcy
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
January 7th, 2017
Emotional Bankruptcy By: Shira Frank, LCSW   Dear Shira,             I consider myself happily married, but lately, my husband and I seem to be having a problem. We have been having “cold wars” lately where there is no real arguing between us, but I just feel a lot of tension (We are both quite strong willed people by nature, so we make a great attempt to avoid arguing) If so …
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Differences in Marriage
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
December 31st, 2016
Differences in Marriage By: Shira Frank, LCSW  Q: I have been having difficulty with my husband in recent months. His whole personality is very different from mine – he is very outgoing and friendly, and very much enjoys a lot of social activities. I am more quiet and prefer to stay close to home. Until recently, I used to go along with my husband to any social events, in order to make him happy. But its gotten to a point where I resen …
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Achieving Spiritual Goals in a Difficult Home Situation
Author: Shira Frank, LCSW
December 26th, 2016
Achieving Spiritual Goals in Difficult Home Situations By: Shira Frank LCSW               Upon marriage, a spouse may have specific goals that may or may not be fulfilled, depending on a variety of circumstances in the marriage. There are cases where a spouse finds him/herself at a “standstill” due to a “plateau” in relation to his/her spouse’s spiritua …
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