Article appeared frequently on ways to optimize the use of Google in internet searches. One suggested use: Use Google to find out what time it is in any spot around the world. Surely a valuable tool. In my musings, I pondered whether there is any method known to humankind that can tell us where we are. How do we know how we are faring in the human search for self-realization and meaning.

For the most part, the answer to this question will lie with the theologians and philosophers.  However, if you need a good self-test I would suggest the following: When you confront a difficult time, decision, etc. resist the temptation to fight or confront the other party.  Brute force, intimidations, et al are not always the answer. Try meaningful dialogue and discussion.  Learn how to speak and how to listen.  How can one come to this point? You cal learn from your neighborhood mediator, therapist,etc. A mediator will try to guide the parties to sharing information, learning to listen, and learning how to speak. These skills will serve you well in life. Want to know where you are in life, next time a crisis looms? Dialogue. Listen. Share information. You will not be disappointed with the results.

Rabbi Martin Rosenfeld is a Fair Lawn mediator, attorney, and former Menahel.