The relationship between brothers and sisters, who are about four years of age, has been called a “first marriage,” since they are each other’s first peer relationship. During this time, they learn (or don’t learn) to start, resolve, and avoid fights; to compete, save face, negotiate, cooperate; to go back and forth between loving and fighting; to know when to exert power and when to withdraw or rely on other skills such as humor, manipulation, blackmail, tattling, bartering, silence.
Our clients bring these learned (or not learned) skills from childhood to their adult lives, transferring them onto their love and work relationships. Three core issues explain this: frozen images, crystallized roles, and unhealthy loyalty. Further, old unresolved childhood issues sometimes lead to behavioral problems that have an unconscious “message” to siblings. This workshop will professionals recognize and determine ideas for how to incorporate these hidden resources in their treatment of individuals and couples.
https://frumtherapist.com/workshops/AdultSibli22/viewAdult Siblings:
A Hidden Resource in Individual and Couples' Therapy
Previously Recorded
Presenter: Dr. Karen Gail Lewis
Course Length: 3 Hours
This workshop Offers 3 Continuing Education Credits
This webinar is recorded and will not grant live credits.
The relationship between brothers and sisters, who are about four years of age, has been called a “first marriage,” since they are each other’s first peer relationship. During this time, they learn (or don’t learn) to start, resolve, and avoid fights; to compete, save face, negotiate, cooperate; to go back and forth between loving and fighting; to know when to exert power and when to withdraw or rely on other skills such as humor, manipulation, blackmail, tattling, bartering, silence.
Our clients bring these learned (or not learned) skills from childhood to their adult lives, transferring them onto their love and work relationships. Three core issues explain this: frozen images, crystallized roles, and unhealthy loyalty. Further, old unresolved childhood issues sometimes lead to behavioral problems that have an unconscious “message” to siblings. This workshop will professionals recognize and determine ideas for how to incorporate these hidden resources in their treatment of individuals and couples.
Introducing concept of “siblings as first marriage” 10 minutes
Introducing “Ghost” concepts of frozen images, 60 minutes
crystallized roles, unhealthy loyalty, and
sibling transference
Sibling Connection to Clients’ Problems: 60 minutes
Recognizing the purpose of symptoms related to
Siblings.
15 minute break
Recognizing sibling transference in clients’ 45 minutes
love and work problems
How to present the idea of involving siblings in your 30 minutes
Clients’ treatment and prepare them for talking
With their siblings
How to help siblings without their siblings’ involvement 15 minutes
Wrap up and summary 5 minutes
