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From Guilt to Growth: The Practice of De-Parenting (Recorded)
De-Parenting is the therapeutic and intrapersonal process of identifying, disentangling from, and releasing internalized family rules, roles, and obligations that undermine autonomy and self-worth. Drawing from family systems, attachment, and trauma-informed theories, this training introduces clinicians to Dr. Arnoff’s De-Parenting Framework as the necessary precursor to effective re-parenting and sustainable self-compassion. Clinicians will learn how to help clients recognize inherited narratives and their impact on adult functioning and relationships, tolerate guilt, ambiguous loss, and grief that come with boundary-setting, as well as build capacity for healthier self-concepts and chosen relationships grounded in safety, reciprocity, and belonging.
From Guilt to Growth: The Practice of De-Parenting (Recorded)
Previously Recorded
Presenter: Jaimee Arnoff, Ph.D.
Course Length: 3 Hours
Learning Objectives:
Explain how internalized parental rules and attachment patterns contribute to client distress and relational difficulties.
Describe the guilt, grief, and ambiguous loss that often accompanies boundary-setting with family of origin.
Define new relational frameworks that prioritize safety, reciprocity, and authenticity beyond the family of origin.
This workshop Offers 3 Continuing Education Credits This webinar is recorded and will not grant live credits.
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De-Parenting is the therapeutic and intrapersonal process of identifying, disentangling from, and releasing internalized family rules, roles, and obligations that undermine autonomy and self-worth. Drawing from family systems, attachment, and trauma-informed theories, this training introduces clinicians to Dr. Arnoff’s De-Parenting Framework as the necessary precursor to effective re-parenting and sustainable self-compassion. Clinicians will learn how to help clients recognize inherited narratives and their impact on adult functioning and relationships, tolerate guilt, ambiguous loss, and grief that come with boundary-setting, as well as build capacity for healthier self-concepts and chosen relationships grounded in safety, reciprocity, and belonging.
Learning Objectives:
Explain how internalized parental rules and attachment patterns contribute to client distress and relational difficulties.
Describe the guilt, grief, and ambiguous loss that often accompanies boundary-setting with family of origin.
Define new relational frameworks that prioritize safety, reciprocity, and authenticity beyond the family of origin.
Agenda:
Time
Section & Chapter Focus
Format / Key Content
0:00 – 0:15 (15 min)
Welcome, Orientation & Defining De-Parenting
Lecture + Guided Discussion – Introduce learning objectives and clarify distinctions between de-parenting and re-parenting.
0:15 – 0:45 (30 min)
Roles, Rules & the Protective Self
Lecture
Experiential Activity 1
Group Debrief:
0:45 – 1:15 (30 min)
Attachment and Guilt
Mini-Lecture + Somatic Practice: Review how early attachment patterns and perfectionistic coping maintain guilt and conditional worth. Lead a 3-minute Somatic Tracking exercise from the workbook, locating guilt or tension in the body, labeling sensations without judgment. Discussion: Translating somatic work into client interventions (CBT + trauma-responsive integration).
1:15 – 1:25 (10 min)
Break
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1:25 – 1:55 (30 min)
Family Scripts, Gratitude & Obligation
Lecture + Guided Exercise 2 Discussion: Distinguishing gratitude from indebtedness.
1:55 – 2:25 (30 min)
Guilt-Resilience & Permission to Choose Yourself (
Activity 3 – The Guilt-Resilience Toolkit: Introduce workbook tools (Name It Out Loud, Soften the Script, Body-Based Regulation, Values Anchoring). Participants practice writing one “Permission Script” (e.g., “I’m allowed to need rest.”).
2:25 – 2:50 (25 min)
Grief & Ambiguous Loss in De-Parenting
Lecture + Reflective Writing: Discuss mourning the parent who didn’t protect, sibling losses, and ambiguous grief. Clinical Discussion: Supporting clients through grief without pathologizing distance.
2:50 – 3:00 (10 min)
Integration, Application & Q + A
Large-Group Reflection: “Which concept will most influence your clinical work?”
Review take-home journaling prompts
This presentation is open to:
Social Workers
Professional Counselors
Therapists
Psychologists
Licensed Mental Health Practitioners
Medical Doctors and Other Health Professionals
Other professionals interacting with populations engaged in mental health based services
New practitioners who wish to gain enhanced insight surrounding the topic
Experienced practitioners who seek to increase and expand fundamental knowledge surrounding the subject matter
Advanced practitioners seeking to review concepts and reinforce practice skills and/or access additional consultation
Managers seeking to broaden micro and/or macro perspectives
Participants will receive their certificate electronically upon completion of the webinar and course evaluation form.
Disability Access - If you require ADA accommodations, please contact our office 30 days or more before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification.
Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often, and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.
The grievance policy for trainings provided by the NEFESH INTERNATIONAL is available here Satisfactory Completion Participants must have paid the tuition fee, logged in and out each day, attended the entire workshop, and completed an evaluation to receive a certificate (If this is a pre-recorded program, a post-test with a passing grade of 80% to receive a certificate.) Failure to log in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available. Certificates are available after satisfactory course completion by clicking here.
There is no conflict of interest or commercial support for this program.
CE You! is an approved sponsor of the Maryland Board of Social Work Examiners for continuing education credits for licensed social workers in Maryland. CE You! maintains responsibility for this program.
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