Author: Dovid Lessin, PsyD

February 4th, 2023

Nearly a hundred years before the Human Potential Movement began in the late 1960s, The Alter of Slabodka (Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel zt”l) taught us about the greatness of man, gadlus ha’adam. This concept revolutionized Jewish education by introducing a new angle to motivating students, one that bred scores of Gedolei Yisrael and uplifted an entire generation of Jewish youth. The Slabodka Educational Approach The Alter wanted us to unde …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: My 15-year-old son has always been a bit shy and nervous. Not the bravest kid, he doesn't really take chances or challenge things. BH, he is a good kid and is doing well in mesivta. His 2 older brothers have struggled a lot with their yiddishkeit. Our son now would like to go to therapy to help him be calmer and more confident.  A lot of his worries have a frumkeit aspect to it. He seems to look up to his …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I am dating a girl who disclosed to me that she has been seeing a therapist for the last year. She seems like a good girl and she said the things she went to therapy for are not significant. She gave me permission to speak directly with her therapist and signed a form allowing me to do so. My question/concern is how reliable will the information I get from the therapist be? Can you give me some advice on what type of questions to …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: We are writing this out of deep frustration in the hope that you will have some guidance for us. Our 16-year-old son has become rebellious and has been out of yeshiva the whole year. He seemingly spends his days and nights getting into trouble and living completely not like a mensch. He keeps crazy hours,  dresses strange, has very few friends. and in general, is not being matzliach. My husband and I pride ours …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I'm a thirty-year-old wife and mother who's been recommended for therapy by my rov to address trauma and a difficult childhood. I am concerned about some obstacles that I think will come up—and that I have heard from others—and am curious if the panelists have any solutions.  Being that the average session time is 45-50 minutes, how is it feasible to get anywhere in therapy? It takes a good fifteen minutes just to …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I was advised to see a therapist for our son for a certain issue. When getting the referral we were told that a specific therapist is a mumcheh in this area. The issue is that he lives in our neighborhood and davens in our shul. We don’t really have anything to do with him personally but my son is very uncomfortable with the idea that he would bump into him. Our question is if you think this is a concern? I am sure in the fr …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: Our 18-year-old daughter was prescribed medication for depression and we think that it makes a real difference for her. Unfortunately, she starts and stops taking it pretty much whenever she wants. We have discussed this with her therapist but get the sense that the therapist doesn't want to waste the whole session talking about medication compliance. That being said we are concerned that this might be unhealthy for her and certai …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: We live in a small neighborhood where everyone knows each other and gets along very well. Recently two families that we know and are friendly with became embroiled in a serious machlokes with each other. I do not think the specific details are necessary to share and I want to protect confidentiality but this is not an issue that someone just didn't get shlishi. It is hard to figure out what is actually even the trut …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I have been hesitant to write for a while because this is not a scenario that most people deal with. My son, who has always had mental health issues, was recently diagnosed with psychosis - the doctors say most likely he has some form schizophrenia. This is not so shocking to us because, like I said, he has been struggling for a while. We are hopeful that with the right treatment he will be able to live a full and productive life …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I'm in my early fifties, married with children and grandchildren. Problem is I'm still trying to figure out who I am. I don't have good self-esteem and not sure of my opinions. I don't express my emotions, maybe I don't trust them. You can even see in my walk that I am nervous/not confident (at least I think so). I grew up in a house without shalom bayis. What can I do now, at this stage of life, to help myself? Thank yo …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I have always been jealous of those who are able to keep calm when everything around them is in crisis. There are some people who it seems no matter what is going on around them are able to keep cool, stay rational, and make sound decisions. I always tend to panic and do exactly the wrong thing. Is this just a personality type that you are born with or is this something you can develop? If it is something you can really become goo …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

January 19th, 2023

Dear Therapist: I'm in my low thirties and my oldest children are now in their early teens. Due to increased awareness and education, my friends and I focus on parenting with more positivity, empathy, validation, communication, and emotional awareness than the previous generation. Our parents expected more from us than we expect from our children, and we usually had to do what was right even if we didn't feel like it. Recently, I'm noticing a dis …
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Author: Shlomit Liz Sanders, LMFT, CCTP

November 30th, 2022

Five ways parenting coaching can help   Anyone who is a parent can attest to the difficulties of being a parent. There are moments of joy, challenges, outright frustrations and a million questions of uncertainty. Unfortunately, kids aren’t born with a manual but parenting coaching comes close to that. First, let me address the obvious question here: what is parenting coaching? Parenting coaching is a guide that can help you become a mo …
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Author: Allan J. Katz LPC/CSAT

November 28th, 2022

Is Sex as an Obligation Part of Sex Addiction?   There is a distinct difference between healthy sex and sexual abuse and addiction. Many people think of sexual addiction as something obsessive and compulsive which happens online or outside the bedroom with other people.  But there is a common thread within the household that rears the ugly head of addiction and that is sex as an obligation. “I did this for you, you owe me sex.&rdq …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I am writing in regard to some of the questions that have come up in the column recently as to when there is an indication of a mental health issue for a bochur or child. I once heard that a good measure of evaluation is if the problem is happening across the board at home, school and camp that would be a sign that professional intervention is needed. If the child is fine at home and elsewhere and only having a prob …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: My spouse and I went for marriage counseling for a while for some issues with someone who seemed to be a very competent therapist. The therapist seemed to understand how to breakdown the issues and attempt to work on resolutions. However, some things didn't seem to be adding up right. For example, the therapist left off a few sessions at some very crucial points, leaving us feeling very vulnerable and with a lot of raw emotions ex …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Is it possible for someone who never had ADHD to get it for the first time as an adult? I have recently started having trouble just staying focused on work as well as paying attention during shuirim and concentrating in davening. I have never had this issue before and was an excellent student all through yeshiva. My chavrusah actually recently made an offhand comment about how "ADD" I am and it really …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: There was someone close to my family who died last year. She was someone I was close with and trusted and did something that hurt me terribly. This is not the forum to go into details, but this was a tremendous avlah and I don’t think anyone would disagree. Since this happened shortly before she was niftar and I didn’t really have the full understanding of what she did until after she was already go …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I would like to thank you for this insightful column that so many gain from weekly.  As a mesivta rebbe I occasionally need to send a bochur to therapy when I feel that his struggles may be mental health related and baruch Hashem I have generally had good experiences. There is a question that comes up that I would like to hear your opinion on. When are a bochur’s struggles or lack …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Our son recently acknowledged that he has been experiencing extreme anxiety over the last 6-8 months. This has been something that his menahel had been concerned about and mentioned to him, but he denied anything was wrong. I think that finally it got so bad that he couldn’t push it away anymore and he is coming to us for help. The issue is he is supposed to go to learn in Eretz Yisroel next zman along wi …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: There are many emotions that come up this time of year. There are some like simcha, gratitude, and devekus that are wonderful to experience. I see from my children who are “millennials” that they are fine with that. However, they seem to be rejecting or suppressing some of the more uncomfortable emotions that can come up like anxiety, guilt, and regret. It got me thinking about how psychologically speaki …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Our son recently got engaged B"H. He doing very well but is one of those kids who "took the scenic route." He had struggles with yiddishkeit and in yeshiva over the years. He told us that his rebbi recommended that he and his kallah go to a marriage therapist while they are engaged to work on their relationship. This frightened my husband and me. If they are already having issues maybe this isn't the …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Our 10-year-old daughter has been complaining of headaches and stomachaches.  This seems to happen whenever something is going on in her life, particularly when there are changes such as school starting, camp, and around yom tov time when there is a change in schedule. We discussed it with her pediatrician who said there is nothing medical going on. She suggested that we begin by having a conversation with her about …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: We recently went through a terrible experience with a licensed therapist that a family member used. It was not a subjective mismatch; the clinician lacked professionalism and training, and other professionals and rabbanim involved in the situation were distraught to hear about the techniques he used and the ensuing damage it created. We have switched clinicians and are now going through the process of undoing and re-lear …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: My 30-year-old daughter had suffered from anxiety for a long time. After a course of psychotherapy was not successful, she began seeing a psychiatrist and started taking an anti-depressant (which is also supposed to help for anxiety). This was very life enhancing for her and she has really thrived since then. Recently she says that new research has shown that antidepressants really don’t work, and it is all a “placebo& …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I'm in my low thirties and my oldest children are now in their early teens. Due to increased awareness and education, my friends and I focus on parenting with more positivity, empathy, validation, communication, and emotional awareness than the previous generation. Our parents expected more from us than we expect from our children, and we usually had to do what was right even if we didn't feel like it. Recently, I'm noticing a dis …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I was living a happy and fulfilling life as a busy wife and mom when out of nowhere darkness descended. I was diagnosed with clinical depression requiring medication. I’m in the midst of professional treatment and still struggling each day. My normally happy and meaningful avodas Hashem came to a sudden halt leaving me lost and confused.

My question is what is one afflicted with mental illness to do? The …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Over the last few years, I have begun to realize that much of what I have done in life I did because other people told me to. I feel like I have never really made my decisions in life. The schools I went to, the career I chose, and even my marriage are all things that I asked others for advice and followed it. As I have realized this, I have become more and more confused as to what I really want and have started doubting everythin …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I am in my 30s, and BH I'm a busy mother. However, I constantly have dreams that I am in high school. The dreams are not at all disturbing, they are just filled with the day-to-day life of a high schooler (tests, lessons, etc.). This is very puzzling to me, as I am double the age I was then, and I'm at a completely different stage of life. Additionally, I always feel that I am "faking it" being an adult, and I feel overwhelmed by …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I'm in my low thirties and my oldest children are now in their early teens. Due to increased awareness and education, my friends and I focus on parenting with more positivity, empathy, validation, communication, and emotional awareness than the previous generation. Our parents expected more from us than we expect from our children, and we usually had to do what was right even if we didn't feel like it. Recently, I'm noticing a dis …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Here is a question I've been troubled by for a while. Many times, people will send their kid or spouse to therapy, but the kid or spouse is somewhat in denial or confused. They may see reality in a twisted way or be somewhat lying to themself or only see their side of the picture due to their emotional/mental health issue. When they sit and talk to the therapist, they are only giving over that twisted picture o …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I am a bocher who has a lot of friends in shidduchim and one of my best friends is about to start. Now this friend went through a very rough childhood and his father was very abusive physically, emotionally, and spiritually. His parents never really got along and they went to family therapy. Now from what I see that wasn't enough and I think there is a lot more he needs to work on …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW, QCSW, DCSW

November 17th, 2022

Dear Therapist: Our 12-year-old was referred to therapy by her school for some behavioral and social issues. Nothing too severe but the school thought it would be beneficial for her to gain some skills before going into next year. After a while we finally got into the therapist we were suggested but now we are coming up on camp season. She and her friends are all supposed to go to camp for a big part of the summer but that would mean either delay …
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Author: Alexanderlewis

November 14th, 2022

Pregalin 50mg Capsule (Generic Lyrica) is used to treat neuropathic pain, Epilepsy, anxiety, and Fibromyalgia. It is also used to treat certain types of seizures. Pregalin 50 mg  is a medication used to treat neuropathic pain (pain caused by nerve injury) and fibromyalgia (severe muscle pain and tenderness). It is prescribed for diabetic nerve pain, epilepsy, spinal cord injury, restless leg syndrome, and generalized anxiety disorder. Pregal …
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Author: Evan Steele

November 2nd, 2022

Toward Serving Men Better-Part 2: Suppression of feelings   This is Part 2 in a series.  For introductions, context, and caveats, please see Part 1.  I will assume the reader is familiar with these, and move forward. As I mentioned in Part 1, I’ve often encountered statements by individuals and in the media imploring men to “be brave” and express feelings.  Indeed, I recall a pop song many years ago by a fema …
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Author: Evan Steele

October 20th, 2022

Introduction and Part 1 The following is an essay on thoughts regarding how our profession may be falling short in reaching and treating men, and suggestions for improvements.  I will need to begin with somewhat lengthy caveats.  If the reader wishes, s/he may skip to the main body of the essay Introduction/Caveats: Politics/Agendas:  While I am suggesting that we can do better in treating men, I have no, nor subscribe to, any agen …
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Author: Buymed life

September 23rd, 2022

Alcohol may harm your erection in addition to being hazardous for you. It could be challenging to have sexual relations if you have this disease, sometimes known as "whiskey dick." It could also result in erection problems and signs of alcohol withdrawal. In this article, we'll discuss how alcohol impacts erection and sperm count. Studies have shown a connection between heavy drinking and erection issues. It could also result in long-term reprodu …
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Author: Julian Ortega

August 31st, 2022

Moving is another important task that makes people stressful as it is the time when any thing can turn wrong. I had shifted my household goods from Surat to Coimbatore via Aip Packers and Movers Surat. and their entire service was an excellent and good. All my household goods were packed well and transported safely to my destination. With the assistance of professional movers and packers one can easily shift their goods to the new location safely …
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Author: ava white

August 26th, 2022

Planning ahead and working for your goals is the greatest approach to deal with the stresses Your goals should be within your reach but not so simple that you'll feel like a failure if you don't reach them. Setting realistic and attainable goals might help reduce anxiety. Making an extra effort to be kind to everyone you meet will help Cenforce 100mg  ease your nerves. When one person acts forcefully and rudely, it usually provokes a similar …
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Author: Elanie Smith

August 8th, 2022

Ginkgo Balba or ginkgo tree, is a massive specimen with distinctively shaped leaves. As a memory aid, the leaves are often put in supplements and eaten orally. Scientists believe the ginkgo tree to be more than 200 million years old, making it one of the oldest living trees. Not only is it cultivated in Europe and the United States, but it is also native to China, Japan, and Korea. It may have antioxidant properties that slow down brain ageing, a …
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